I’m not sure why I need to say this - as the people who have been sending me these are self-identified feminist women - but: please do not send me sexually explicit comments. Especially in the faux cutesy way with those (◕‿◕✿) emoticons, it creeps me the fuck out.
I’m not going to lie, I’m pretty vain and super cute.
That doesn’t mean I’m comfortable with strangers talking about fucking me.
I’m not averse to compliments, or getting to know people but I am averse to people doing things like that.
Turning the spartans into 100% heterosexual male power fantasies and having them fight actual monsters and shit is ok but A WOMAN?? AS A MILITARY COMMANDER??? A WOMAN WHO ACTUALLY EXISTED AND WAS A MILITARY COMMANDER AT THAT TIME???? WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS SOCIAL JUSTICE SHIT
the thing about not growing up being able to trade on beauty is that it forced me to fortify myself with other attractive qualities. i learned early to be smart, to be kind, to be funny, to make people feel good around me. i learned to be an attractive and magnetic person through how i treat others. i gained popularity from laughter and being interesting and helpful. so i trade on that. prettiness while probably the most weaponized isn’t the most powerful of the things that make me who i am. it’s just an asset, but it’s really the other shit i worked hard on and glad i grew in.
this is one of the bizarre positives about growing up in a very explicitly racist area as a young black girl. trying to get shit by being cute was not gonna work in a region where blackness is the antithesis of beauty, so i had to figure out more viable weapons to have in my arsenal. i certainly wouldn’t wish that environment (and the ensuing effect on one’s psyche) on anyone, but i can’t say i’m mad at having finely tuned other advantageous traits as a result.
Reminder that while the concept of virginity is technically a social construct, your sexual debut is still allowed to be special to you, and you are still allowed to wait and want to make it meaningful, and your self-perception is still allowed to change after you have sex. Just as long as you’re doing these things for yourself, and not because someone told you that you should.
Casual reminder that girls who say they’re “not like other girls” are living in a society where the idea that girls (especially teenage girls, god forbid) are horrible and the worst thing you can be is constantly reinforced
And they think that if they distance themselves from the ever-hated spray tan/pop music teen girl, the very image of what society considers vapid and worthy of scorn, they can be considered human by their classmates etc.
Internalized misogyny is a defense & survival mechanism
Granted it’s not an effective one because along with throwing other girls under the bus, boys get to say they’re just trying too hard to seem like a ~special snowflake~ and they’re actually unoriginal because at the bottom line, all girls are the same, AMIRITE?
We need to perpetuate the idea that being a girl is cool no matter how you experience/perform girlhood instead of scorning literally every kind of girl for what seems like different reasons on the surface but is actually just misogyny at the root.
CeCe McDonald, a trans woman of color is in the midst of a 41 month prison sentence for defending herself against a violent, racist and transphobic attack in Minnesota which resulted in the death of one of her attackers. Actress Laverne Cox is portraying an incarcerated trans woman in Orange is the New Black. Through a powerful in prison interview, and investigative filmmaking. This film confronts the issue of transphobia and the culture of violence surrounding trans women of color.
The holiday season should be more than overloaded tables and Black Friday brawls. Hopefully, it’s also a time for reflection on the many blessings that we have and to acknowledge those who may not be as fortunate. On that note, we’ve come across an…
My neighbor directly above me really likes those big multiplayer online games, I know this because he likes to scream slurs and various obscenities at his fellow players really loud at three in the morning, and I mean, I guess he could be doing something else but you know how when someone is doing that you just know he’s playing some world war 2-themed multiplayer shoot em up, like you just sort of know.
I was 13 years old when Marc Lépine opened fire and murdered 14 women for being at engineering school when he wasn’t. He blamed feminism for the situation he was in, and murdered these women for being in non-traditional jobs, for being there.
Every year, the memorials I go to are different. Some are quiet - I remember several winters in the snow, holding candles and reciting names like a talisman against violence.
Geneviève Bergeron, 21 years old. Hélène Colgan, 24 years old. Nathalie Croteau, 24 years old.
When I was younger, they seemed impossibly mature and sophisticated. I used to imagine them laughing and enjoying university, cut down without warning. Now that I’m 35, they seem so young, and I wonder if they were afraid.