one of the most obvious things I’d like for anti-rape movements is for rapists to stop getting involved but it also seems like one of the hardest.
What the fuck does this mean?
a lot of rapists are involved in anti-rape movements because they don’t realize/care that they themselves are rapists what the hell do you think it means
Also some predators intentionally work for places that handle survivor needs if they can get away with it because it gives them access to people they know were previously victimized
Seriously, all of this. I’m tired of this ‘noble rapist’ bullshit where we privilege their words and feelings over those of their victims and believe them when they say it was ‘just some crazy misunderstanding’ and ‘not a big deal’. They don’t have a place in the movement, and their presence makes things shittier for survivors.
Feminist blogs, stop publishing these motherfuckers. Is it that hard for us to stop gushing over men, many of whom admit to raping women, and calling them brave for giving pseudo-apologies that put the fault almost entirely on their victims?
I’m all for being compassionate and appreciative to meh women but NO >:l.
(sidenote: who ever deleted my commentary, I hate you, this is what I’m dealing with now because of it)
“compassionate to my women” uhhhhh why do they belong to you and why are they the only ones deserving of compassion and appreciation?
I didn’t mean it like that, yeah it can be taken like that but I don’t honestly think I own them I simply commenting on the article there XP. I don’t think in any way shape or form own them, I was simply making a half assed comment on a article which is saying you can get a guy to be more compassionate and appreciative by pegging them >.>;……
I don’t think you honestly think you own them, but that’s a very common sentiment men hold about certain women in their lives - “don’t touch/hurt my daughter/wife/sister” - that’s a benevolent sort of paternalism.
And like; the person who wrote this article is a rapist and attempted murderer who keeps on talking about women performing sexual acts on men to make them better people.
But seriously, do you think that Hugo and Jezebel are just reaching into a hat and fucking with us.
why are people deleting my commentary on this, this is BAD, Hugo Schwyzer is SCUM and don’t peg your boyfriend for feminism, peg him if you wanna but like no one is obligated to make men and their butts happy and thoughtful!!!
Look, there are three wrong thing I see here:
1st: Don’t force sex in anyone, rape is not ok just because it is in a man.
2nd: Why buttsex is related with feminism? I mean, the two may be great, or not, but, really, what’s the relation?
3rd: Stop trying to force feminism in people, forcing something you make this something to seems bad, and feminism is great, you moron.
Actually, there are a fourth: If you need this desperatly to force feminism and a dildo in someone’s ass, go see a psychiatrist.
You DO know Hugo Schwyzer is an actual rapist and “feminist”, right? But, like, no one is talking about rape here, though there are gross implications about how the act of being penetrated will make men more sensitive, ~JUST LIKE WOMEN~.
men who muse about how all straight women have “exceptions” and would have sex with at least with one other woman need to stop watching porn and certainly need to stop pretending they see women as anything other than sex objects.
men who keep talking about fluid female sexuality just want to jerk off to us and then don’t want any of us to really be lesbians.
Hugo Schwyzer may not be employed by Jezebel (which: Maya, you rockstar) but he’s still employed to teach young women about feminism and gender and sexuality and ughughugh, he’s an admitted rapist who gets to be in close contact with young women and I hope he loses his teaching job next tbh.
Honestly, even if I believed Hugo Schwyzer could be a redeemable human being, I wouldn’t believe it would be done through being a Professional Male Feminist who gets paid to teach women about their own oppression when actual women struggle to get teaching positions when Actual Rapist/Attempted Murderer Hugo Schwyzer is you know, a narcissistic piece of shit who shouldn’t be employed in any capacity that places him a position as a feminist who can educate women and girls about the sort of violence he himself has enacted against women
And I say this like EVERY TIME he comes up, but that’s because it’s important to repeat and for people to know: Hugo Schwyzer obsessively looks up and reads any online mention of him, he does google searches on his own name, he searches his tag on tumblr, he has referenced things I and others have said about him online, the point is, HE IS VERY MUCH AWARE OF CRITICISMS OF HIM
Which means he is very much aware of the numerous reasons many women feel scared, and uncomfortable, and angry about his presence in women’s and/or feminist or feminist-ish spaces (hint: it has to do with being an admitted rapist and attempted murderer but that’s not the beginning or end of it really)
He’s also spoken before about being a diagnosed narcissist
He knows exactly what he’s doing, and who he’s making uncomfortable, with his continued existence as “guy who gets paid to talk about feminism”
He knows and, to be honest, he seems to enjoy it
he loves it, i forget where this was (probably twitter) but after one of the bigger mass critiques he was like “ugggh who should i listen to, the people who say i make them uncomfortable or the people who say they appreciate my work?!?!?!” like that’s such a conundrum??? if you make people uncomfortable maybe try and stop that???
but i’m forgetting that he’s probably an actual sociopath so.
He’s gone on the record saying he was diagnosed with NPD, that’s almost like a sociopath, so…
Hugo ol’ boy is an admitted narcissist who likely tracks his tag on Tumblr.
He also has the lovely habit of posting obviously-not-going-to-happen threats (such as “I wish a meteorite would fall on him”, “I wish he would fall in a volcano” etc., things that won’t ever happen) on his Twitter as evidence that his critics are just a bunch of hysterical, overreacting mean girls.
I also have the suspicion that he’s more likely to link to especially disenfranchised women over more privileged women because you know. He’s an awful human being who very much takes advantage of his WASP-y background to literally get away with attempted murder. He knows how to work the system and he know who the system will let him hurt the most.
He of course will not retire or stop from writing and profiting off abusing and mistreating women and calling it ‘feminism’. He’s an admitted abuser of women.
Nor will sites like Role/Reboot or Jezebel stop publishing him because they don’t care about women so much as they care about profit and page clicks and Schwyzer brings that in spades.
But I think criticizing him is important because I want people to Google him and find out what he’s done to women, how he hurt so many women and how he profits off hurting women and refuses to accept how women might not trust him afterwards and are triggered and upset by his very presence in nominally pro-women spaces.
the actual creepy thing about advocating pegging as a feminist act is that it still hinges on the very patriarchal notion that you can fuck someone into compliance
(of course pegging doesn’t work that way because patriarchy etc, I know, but the idea that it needs to be promoted because it could be, thus legitimizing such concepts as valid and valuable, is still toxic.)
aw man I’d forgotten about this until rn now my blood is starting to boil again
FUCKN DIE SCHWYZER DIE DIE DIE DIE
Perhaps the best way to think about Kabbalah’s relationship with Judaism is to think about yoga. Americans often forget that yoga came to this country as a Hindu spiritual practice; long before it was seen as healthful exercise, it was inextricably linked with that ancient faith from the Indian subcontinent. But as many of its devotees point out, and as most of us accept, yoga has a universal application – it is a set of practical mental and physical tools that can benefit anyone. Much the same is true of Kabbalah. Though most of the greatest kabbalists have been Jewish, it would be more accurate to say that Kabbalah has been something concealed within Judaism rather than an exclusively Jewish practice. Like yoga, Kabbalah is now being made available to the world thanks to the work of the Centre. And just as many of the purists objected that yoga was only for Hindus, so too many now object that Kabbalah is only for Jews. But they are wrong, on both historical and spiritual grounds.
Thank you, you white goy for telling both Hindus and Jews that we don’t know our culture and history and spiritual practices.
We REALLY needed that from your WASP-y ass.
While the worst thing about Hugo Schwyzer is that he has assaulted women, the fact that he makes a profit while smugly flagellating himself and telling men and women how to be better feminists, nay, better people, is just unbearable and is literally painful for some survivors to have to see him dole out his “hard-fought wisdom” about male privilege when no, we have so much better things to say but you keep on talking over women and you get so much money and respect for talking about how you “were” an abuser but I get nothing but men telling me obviously the only reason I’m a feminist is because I’m oversensitive and overreacting to my abuse.
That also stings a lot.
men who only become better people if women will touch their butts are bad people
men who care about how facials make them feel as people are bad people - let him jizz on your face, for equality. who cares how it makes you feel. it makes him feel clean! what is cultural context.
what I’m saying is Hugo Schwyzer keeps writing articles about how women need to comfort men by performing certain sex acts as feminism and that is pretty in line with abuser logic - do this, or I won’t be a good person. it’ll be all your fault.
reject butthole feminism.
(butthole feminism was coined by mcgraceee)
But yeah, just to drive home something we have known for a while: Hugo Schwyzer is completely aware of the very specific issues that many, many women have with him and his continued insistence on making money by writing about feminism-except-really-himself
Any time he has tried to pretend he didn’t know what all those crazy women were so angry about, or has been vague about it, or chalked it up to just ~not believing in recovery~ or what the fuck ever—that’s complete bullshit
He googles himself and searches out posts about himself constantly, he reads extremely detailed posts about himself and why he is a dangerous, disgusting person who deliberately and gleefully ignores the wishes of women he pretends to speak for, don’t ever let him pretend he doesn’t know what people are mad about
I saw this and thought, ”wow. I really, really have a different set of sexual experiences and expectations for my sexual experiences than the person who wrote this.”
Then I saw it was written by Hugo Schwyzer. Which makes this sentence extra ironic:
Like Kevin’s partner, she demanded I throw it out, making the classically false claim that true fidelity requires a willingness to erase the record of the past.
ghfgegfhregfurgef at everything, tbh
but leave it up to Hugo to be oblivious to the idea that people you’ve slept with are not objects to be listed and may not want to be recorded like that, for anyone to see; to him every woman is an object whose only value lies in what they did for him, after all, all just learning experiences and anecdotes whose feelings are not relevant and do not need to be taken into account.
So what does Hugo Schwyzer do to note the women he’s slept with and also raped and/or tried to murder? Besides write Jezebel articles about his wacky “pre-sobriety past”
He has slept with his students (coercion!!!!) and his punishment was to write the rules about student-teacher conduct. He still has access to young women.He is a goyish fuck-head who appropriates Kabbalah.
for new followers who are unaware why I am foaming at the mouth at the existence of Hugo Schwyzer
[tw: attempted murder, sexual assault, references to child abuse]
He mocks it now, but remember when he told women to let their boyfriends and husbands jizz on their face to affirm their masculinity? I know, I know, Schwyzer? Not having any real, lasting morals besides what’ll get him published?
And remember how sometimes women do need to survive and do so by not acting threatening toward the men in their lives because men kill women? And look at Schwyzer, laughing at the idea that men are dangerous! When yes, yes, men are dangerous to women.
I’m so glad Hugo Schwyzer has never had to calm down a screaming, abusive adult man at eleven years old by affirming his position as the man of the house. How great for him. How great he never had to develop those tactics in order to survive.
Gosh, how lucky for him.
How lucky that he gets to say we’re living in a post-patriarchal society.
And remember how Hugo Schwyzer is such a a paternalistic narcissist that he decided to kill his ex-girlfriend because she was sexually assaulted and he knew what was best and hasn’t faced jail time for his crimes?
Not linking to the article because fuck him and fuck Jezebel