Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever been a stripper?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever been to a strip club.
Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever done porn?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever watched porn.
You’re the reason we exist.
You’re the demand to our supply.
If you disdain sex workers, don’t you dare consume our labor.
As they say in the industry, “People jack off with the left hand and point with the right.”” —
No I fucking LOVE this.
The UK’s biggest ever investigation of sex trafficking failed to find a single person who had forced anybody into prostitution in spite of hundreds of raids on sex workers in a six-month campaign by government departments, specialist agencies and every police force in the country.
The failure has been disclosed by a Guardian investigation which also suggests that the scale of and nature of sex trafficking into the UK has been exaggerated by politicians and media.
this keeps me warm at night
excerpt from an email from the director of a fan film I was sent
wooooooooow. sounds amazing…
how to describe the sheer gnawing black vacuum of original creativity involved in the process of posing to yourself the question: “what can I do to take this female character [who slyly inverts a thousand stereotypes in an appealing and sympathetic way whilst seeming outwardly to conform to them and has actually already traded sex for favours in canon] and make her DARK!!! and GRITTY!!!!! and R RATED!!!!” and the answer you reach “prostitute”, I mean, SERIOUSLY.
Like “I’ve made her into a prostitute!” tells you exactly what kind he means… every hackneyed, cliched, dehumanising, offensive, hurtful stereotype complete with a total absence of character development and complexity because those things are assumed as inherent to the depiction of broken-down-pimp-beaten-hooker by unimaginative hacks, rather than the paper-thin, soulless, utterly empty shells of bog standard and totally untrue-to-life tropes they are.
doing this is very similar to the “female character gets raped” device: it’s a lazy shortcut to ‘character development’ that doesn’t require putting in any actual effort and usually relies on a shallow, fetishistic projection of what the experience even means. In a one-size-fits-all format, of course.
It is used when the concept of ‘adult material’ is valued over actually telling a quality story, because hookers aren’t anything more than a bit of raunchy, sleazy titillation and for some baffling, obscure, opaque reason a certain level of grossly immature mind believes that ‘grimdark edginess and ‘gritty realism’ automatically equals ‘high quality’ (spoiler alert: it doesn’t).
It is grossly trivialising and dehumanising of the complex reality that is sex workers’ lives and shows a profound disrespect for female characters that it takes them parading around in their lingerie and being beaten up giving you a kinky little thrill whilst simultaneously arousing your nauseating pity in order to see them as interesting and sophisticated people. Not even an attitude you extend to ACTUAL sex workers. And that the hacks who regurgitate this sludge actually think it elevates their work is the kicker. “The rogues gallery as you’ve never seen them before… HQ as a prozzietoot!!!” Like so obviously we’re meant to get a voyeur kick out of seeing a well known character so “degraded”. Like HQ et al aren’t already sexualized to the extreme sufficiently, oh no, you gotta wham us over the heads with it THIS WOMAN HAS SEX SHE IS SEXUALLY DESIRABLE SHE IS SEXUALLY ACTIVE GET YER BONERS IN HAND GUYS AND GET READY WHORE ON THE BOX.
Can we talk about how every time a piece of media has a vaguely feminist bent it inevitably has the shocking, bone chilling thoroughly exploitative TRAFFICKING storyline. Because nothing says srs wmns isses like voyeuristic sex drama.
why does every tumblr-based asexual media invariably start and/or focus on an inherently sexual industry or pastime, like porn or a kink club?
because how would people know the main character is asexual if we don’t have grossly exaggerated portrayals of icky sexysexuals to compare their noble struggle to, trek???
oh silly me of course why didn’t I think of that, italics
grin and bare it all: against liberal conceptions of sex work
AN INCREASINGLY EMOTINALLY INVASIVE PERFORMANCE OF ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT. SHOTS FUCKING FIRED.
if you call yourself a feminist and an anticapitalist but are still supportive of porn as it exists today, don’t even look at me
better make goddamn sure your critique of porn is nuanced, intensely informed by and does not simultaneously oppress porn performers in the process and most especially is SILENT when porn performers are stating their own needs and talking about their own issues with the industry, cos if not you are just a whorephobic piece of shit and you can look at me but I will come for you. Promise.
So, here’s the deal. Today, the Supreme Court of Canada struck down three main anti-sex work laws as unconstitutional. These laws were solicitation in a public place, running a common bawdy house (brothels, etc.), and living off the avails of prostitution. While this is a huge victory for sex workers, it’s not perfect.
The Supreme Court granted the Canadian Government a one year stay of execution, meaning that the laws remain in effect for one year from today, and the Government is encouraged to draft new, constitutional legislation in that time. The problem is that the Government now has the ability to just make more bad laws. They might, for example, institute licensing as many legalized countries have. Licensing means that sex workers would have to pay large fees to the Government in order to work (it’s often around $3k annually), in addition to submitting to Government mandated health examinations. These exams are generally performed by doctors that are assigned to you, not doctors you can choose, and are very invasive. If a sex worker is found to have HIV or any other STI (and possibly any other health condition at all), their expensive license is revoked, meaning that they would have to work illegally. As I’m sure you can tell, this negatively impacts street-based sex workers the most and I’m not happy about it being a possibility.
One of the ways that this court case was pushed through was by saying that since sex work is technically legal, the laws around it were increasing the risks of violence associated with it. In Canada, it is unconstitutional to have laws that harm citizens doing legal activities. I’m no lawyer, but I imagine at least someone on the Crown’s side has already suggested actually outlawing the practice of sex for money itself as a response to today’s decision.
Another issue will likely be municipal. Cities, towns, and counties may begin instituting bylaws that curtain sex work in their areas, or concentrate it within red light districts. While to the outside observer this may seem to not be a problem, it can actually create several problems for sex workers. Generally, red light districts are placed in remote and isolated parts of a city. This can increase the risk of violence, as violent people posing as clients may feel less likely to be caught since there’s no one around. Some cities may even use bylaws to outlaw all sex work within city limits. So, again, this could potentially not benefit sex workers.
While today was a huge victory, it’s important to remember that the fight is not over. This is the first step in a battle that will take years to finish.
In the meantime, why not donate to one of Canada’s sex workers’ rights groups? I highly recommend donating to Maggie’s: Toronto’s Sex Workers’ Action Project. Maggie’s will be continuing the fight to ensure the rights, safety, and dignity of all sex workers across Canada. At Maggie’s, the focus is on street-based, racialized, and trans sex workers. Help Maggie’s continue our vital work by donating today.
I’m all for sex workers and our rights and making sure things are groovy and safe for them/us, but wowwowowowowowowowowow I would not like someone who has HIV/AIDS (specifically) to have a license to practice sex work with the general public.
That’s not safe for literally anybody.
They need to create some sort of secondary licence that is less expensive and only allows for penetration-free sex work jobs (of which there are many) or HIV positive only clients or something.
Whoa. Everything you just wrote is fucked up. Let’s unpack this.
First of all, licensing is a terrible idea as I already explored in my piece above. It pushes people into poverty, and can cause sex workers to have to rely on criminal organization and abusive boyfriends to pay licensing fees.
Next up, it’s clear that you do not understand how HIV is transmitted. Despite what you may think, HIV is no long a death sentence, it is a chronic condition that, in Canada at least, is relatively manageable with the correct treatment. HIV meds used consistently bring your viral load down to low or undetectable levels. From all of the available scientific research, we know that it is damn near impossible to transmit HIV when your viral load is low or undetectable. It is far, far easier to transmit Hep C than it is to transmit HIV — yet I don’t hear you (or the Government for that matter) freaking out about that.
Furthermore, the proper use of condoms for sexual activities considered “high risk” also brings risk of transmission down to a statistical impossibility.
The majority of street-based sex work, and perhaps other forms of sex work, tends to be low risk anyways — meaning blowjobs mostly. The risk of transmission through oral sex, even without treatment and without condoms, is extremely low anyways.
So, if a sex worker is living with HIV and is receiving adequate medical treatment OR uses condoms for high risk sexual activities, there is no reason to think they would be able to transmit HIV to a client.
"But what if they don’t have treatment?!" I anticipate your shrill reaction being. Well, if they don’t have adequate treatment or access to information, that’s an entirely different problem that needs addressing and has little to do with their employment.
The real problem here is your AIDSphobic stigmatizing of sex workers and people living with HIV. It’s 2013, get with the program and, in the words of Tumblrs everywhere, check your privileged assumptions. HIV is not a crime, your AIDSphobia ought to be, though.
Alternatives to “Queer”:
2. Being specific!: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual.
3. Putting the community’s acronym to practical use!: LGBT+
Alternatives to “Slut-shaming”:
1. Sex-shaming or sexuality-shaming.
2. Sex-policing or sexuality-policing.
Alternatives to “Whore-phobia”:
PINPOINT THE PROBLEM!
Who the fuck do you think you are?
Jacqueline Homan (Without Apology)
this is really whorephobic and also actually makes no sense. this is so offensive and demeaning and belittling from the scare quotes around sex work to the application of the incredibly exploitative word prostituted. why do I have to start breaking down why? where’s your common sense and respect for other women? why does your need to see other women as victims because they do work you DON’T crowd out your capacity to allow other women’s autonomy?
why the hell are you following me?
more importantly, why the hell am I following you.
Whore/slut/cunt, etc all exchangeable here…Being a whore and being his/her/their whore are both completely fine, just that being someone’s whore is within the context of D/s while being a whore just means you love sex. Related but one doesn’t equal the other, etc.
I don’t agree that loving sex equals being a whore. But then I like to defy society perceptions. ☺️
Within the context of D/s, for me, this refers more to pet names and intimate exchanges between trusted individuals. More the “Ethical Slut” perspective of Dossie Easton.
Oh for me, being “a whore” means having lots of sex/enjoying it. In society being “a whore” negative connotation, but that’s because society is a bunch of sexually confused prudes; whereas being Somebody’s whore is like what you said, within the dynamic of D/s. :)
I’m going to look up that person, they sound awesome. Thanks for the reference! :)
this is still a really sketchy graphic, even (actually, scratch that, ESPECIALLY) with the explanation given above.
Like…you’re saying that one scenario, in which you’re….”playing” someone/something worthy of devaluation is okay, because it’s play. But somehow as soon as it’s outside of that playing, said “whore” or “slut” behaviors are a bad thing?
I mean, if I’m missing something here, please, let me know.
these whorephobic assholes all need to die.
you fucking mangled, idiotic pieces of shit.
"whore" refers to a class of women who do sex work. we have a lot of sex FOR MONEY, we don’t necessarily enjoy it, this does not render our labour any less valid or real. and we are not any less worthwhile or valuable than you (all indications currently pointing to the opposite, actually).
if you’ve never had sex for money you do NOT get to appropriate or “lol” reclaim the word whore. especially not just so you can get off. you have no right to the word because for you it is just play, for US it is reality and we are actively seen as worth less because of our work and are discriminated against because of it. BIG difference. you do NOT know or experience the stigma attached to actually being a whore, no matter what pathetic little fantasy trip you’ve got going on.
being a boring asshole by remaining ignorant about stigma and discrimination imposed on underclasses of women is not defying societal expectations btw. good god.
if anybody ever tells you that you suck, look them straight in the eyes and say “not for free”
I love that non sex workers think this is so sassy and snappy and that hundreds of thousands of people are like HA yeah amazing but would actually die before they ever actually took money to suck cock meanwhile I have literally used responses like this in actual bitch fights and all I get is disgust because it’s actually true and I really am a dirty whore
ruth jacobs, despite having explicitly stated she has not done sex work just observed other addicts doing it, is now trying to remake herself as a sex worker rights advocate… but is still shilling that disgusting, exploitative piece of shit trash SOUL DESTRUCTION…
… and other sex workers seem to be supporting her, giving her the time of day and participating in her platform?
way back when this happened, I wanted to write a follow up post to it and then I didn’t have the energy and I put it off and put it off and put it off and of course now she has deleted the OP and it’s probably a bit beside the point now…
… plus there is really no easy way to talk about the fact that there are plenty of nice, good men invested in mutually pleasurable sexual relationships with their partners who don’t give a fuck when it comes to the hookers they see.
That men who might be respectful and attentive to women they consider human can be entirely different people with sex workers.
Last week I nearly made a post about how SICK I am, utterly, violently SICK, of trying to move a man’s hand or head from a certain part of my body… gently, then forcefully… only for him to RESIST with everything he has.
How I can be giving an absolutely indisputable cue that I want him to cease what he’s doing and he will not only ignore it, but DEFY it.
It happens when I need stimulation to stop for many reasons. But often times this happens after I’ve faked an orgasm and in keeping with giving an authentic performance, I’m indicating I’m ‘too sensitive’ for further stimulation. It is … beyond all comprehension to me that he’s ostensibly involved in getting me off - in my pleasure - but cannot just stop when I want him too.
And the crux of my wanting to talk about this in context with the bullshit line of the OP linked above, was that the men who do this sorta thing - and many other gross, violating things - are entirely ordinary, every day kinda guys, decent guys, guys who otherwise, in their personal lives, “are looking for a sexual relationship based on mutual affection and mutual pleasure.”
When it comes to men who see sex workers, every woman is quick to say “no man I know”.
Well, sorry to break it to you, but: EVERY man you know.
Yes, every man you know. Fuckn sit with that a while and deal with it.
EVERY man you know has utilised sex industry services in some capacity. That’s reality.
The men who come to see sex workers and then enact behaviour that is violating, predatory, manipulative and non-consensual spanning the very subtle to the very overt are not some obscure sub-species of man, some deviant breed you would never encounter. They are just regular guys who have been raised to view sex workers as less than the other women in their lives.
If you cannot comprehend that even “good”, “decent” men will and DO treat different groups of women differently dependent on their social status, then please spare the world your raphsodising on their objective sexually beneficient virtues.
The biggest reason of course that I put this post off for so long was because there’s also almost no way to talk about this that won’t result in some assholes piggybacking on it for their own whorephobic agendas by claiming it’s proof that sex work is inherently violent and oppressive and the downfall of all women everywhere and I wasn’t really ready to deal with the responsibility that comes with these subjects which is actually bullshit because in feminist discourse we should be able to talk about male violence and sexual assault in different contexts - and most especially of our own experience of it - without being appointed the sole representative and any little thing we say as fully comprehensive (which it isn’t) of a vast and complex topic, but which always happens to marginalised women, even by other women who know what it’s like and know that it’s wrong.
This, of course, is not the only objections I and others had to this piece of shit post; several other survivors spoke up wrt more general contexts, but I did want to say something specifically addressing sex work because it’s not a perspective basically anyone involved would consider or give any credence to. Hell, she responded to the objections (by survivors) with contempt, mockery or just ignoring them altogether (which remains par for the course), so…!
I mean, this post is radically incomplete, it doesn’t have even half of what I planned (and you know I didn’t make that post the other day cos I don’t LIKE putting this stuff out there actually, I can get personal only to a degree) but I don’t have the energy for it rn and I’m really burnt out of the burden of responsibility that comes with saying anything about sex work lest some fuckknuckle twist it but the thing is I STILL regularly think about that post and how bad it was and it still bugs me. SO.